I'm still feeling down about my mom-in-law's death. Probably because Patty lied! Soon after Mama was diagnosed with Alzheimer's, Patty quick flew in to run Ma to a lawyer's to get a will made up, etc. Patty had the lawyer leave everything to her, then she was supposed to divide it up amongst the kids. Patty also made it where she had all the power of attorney. Took Ma to the bank to be put on her checking account. Then Patty controlled Ma's income. That rather startled me. Twice before, Patty had had to 'borrow' money from Jer. Around $400 each time. And each time she manipulated him into saying she didn't have to pay it back. Then, she & her husband had to borrow $1,000 from us to pay their taxes! She was NOT thrilled that I insisted she pay it all back.
Anyway, she sure didn't seem like the best choice to handle someone else's money!
Now, since Ma has died, she's saying Ma wanted her to have the house. There were 10 kids. Two died before Ma did. Ma loved all of her kids a LOT! Her kids were everything to her! For Patty to say Mama would disinherit 7 of her kids, well, that's just BS!
There's also the fact that Ma always knew if she was in her home. None of the kids were willing to give up their lives to take care of her except the youngest & his girlfriend. They didn't have much anyway, BUT, it was a lot of stress for them. Especially the last couple yrs. Ma needed Depends. Sometimes she'd act like a bratty 2-yr-old. There were times she'd hit Tammy & say she hated her. Tammy never had the option of walking away & saying it was too much. She took care of Ma day after day after day. Danny did too.
Shortly before Mama died, Patty SAID she'd give the house to Danny & Tammy. They couldn't afford the utilities in summer, taxes, insurance, etc., so we thought they'd be given the money from the sale. Now Patty says Ma wanted HER to have the house! Jer was so hoping greed wouldn't come into this. All these years, he's only seen good/positive in his sisters & brothers. Now, he finally sees what Patty is really like. He's bummed. He's not only lost a mother, but, in a way, he's also losing a sister. If Patty goes through with her current plans, we will never have anything to do with her again.
So, now that that's off my chest.......lol
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Liz, I am so sorry all of this is going on. I am really surprised that she was able to get the lawyer to make up the Will with Mama having dementia.
ReplyDeleteYou can hire an attorney and spend lots of money and MAYBE get it changed. Or you can leave it the way it is and cut your ties. Get the things appraised, and tell her she owes each child X amount of dollars. If she refuses, then cut your ties with her.
Remind her that Mama would not want this. Neither would she want the family feud.
Glad to see you on Blogspot. I added your blog to my Family and Friends Link. Hope you do not mind.
Hugs, Barbee
Barbee, I'm not the least surprised. Its all about greed. Patty's always manipulated. Jer's finally seeing her for who she really is.
ReplyDeleteI know we could win a battle easy. Just have to show when Ma was diagnosed with Alzheimer's & the date the will was made. But its not worth it. Jer doesn't want any money! BUT, we both feel Tammy & Danny have a lot of it coming to them!
You can add me to whatever you want. I have total trust in you!